Nice Guys Don't Finish Last Anymore

I was telling a co-worker of mine today...

"Things are better for the nice guys"

And I honestly believe this statement to be true. We've all heard the old adage of "nice guys finish last" and while I believe the sentiment holds true in some cases...we've begun to see this become less common.

Heterosexual relationships have been largely defined throughout history by douchebags with vested interests. Church dudes we're telling people what is right/wrong morally and businessmen were scrambling to keep patriarchial relations in tact. Everyone had money & sex involved. They were all male.

Nowadays we have begun to see patriarchy disassembled. And the resulting times are in the "nice guys" favour. I think power has a lot to do with this. Power used to be exclusively for wealthy males who tended to treat women as "objects" rather than another person with power themselves. Women we're left without power, and sought such power in men. The ideal man of the early 1900's was one of wealth and prosperity. Can this man provide for the family? However, in present-day women have acquired their own power so things are a-changin for the better.

Power in 2013 is more of a perspective thing. As Immortal Technique says "success is psychological" so while you may be poor and without wheels (me) you can still have power of mind and spirit. And these traits are becoming more attractive to females as we progress into the new milenium. All of a sudden, being car-less or having a real beat up civic with a crappy engine is less of a factor in our attractibility.

Surface level traits as I call them. Who cares about diamond necklaces or a lifted truck with rims? Conversation and personality are becoming sexy. And it works in the nice guys favour. I mean let's get real here. I'm an average guy with a skinny build. And while I do want to hit the gym and get toned ( it'll happen) I'm doing that more for myself than to get girls. I've never had trouble attracting women. And I mean for no ego to be involved in that statement. It's just how things are.

So back to my buddy at work. He probably thinks the girl he wants is out of his league. In fact his very words were:
"One day I'll gather up the courage to go for her. One day..."

To which I say, go for it. Things aren't the same as they used to be. And we're not giving women the credit they deserve by just throwing out a statement like "nice guys finish last" and then just giving up.

For the most part fellas, you're giving up on yourself.

-dev