I am eating a delicious candy bar-hersheys cookies and cream.
God I love that candybar. So when I saw them on sale ( 2 for $2) I couldn't help myself.
I also picked up coconut body milk..err..something like that. A rockstar energy drink ( I have work later) and some new bodywash ( my old stuff didn't excite me anymore) I've never been a fan of axe bodywash/spray/deodorant. It reminds me too much of grande nine, before I realized the magic of cologne, where I would proceed to spray myself down head to toe with the stuff..and think I smelt good.
Compounded on this is of course the horrid smell of various axe flavours that fill a locker room. Mix that in with hawaiian humidity and you make for a pretty toxic environment after gym class.
So i'm off axe-been off axe for at least 5 years. But I find bottles of the stuff find their way into my bathroom through gifts or promotional packages that sort of thing. I ended up going for my old pal Old Spice (insert promotional commerical here) but seriously old spice has had my back for a loong time in terms of bathroom products. Their bodywash and aftershave definitely play a major part of my getting ready.
Smelling good is something I enjoy. That seems like a pretty basic concept eh? But take a bus ride anywhere and you'll quickly realize that the rest of the world isn't on board with always smelling good. Granted, some are getting home after a long day of labour. But I think this is a very small percentage of those who smell bad. The justifiable excuses are slim. I've smelt bad before though-trust me. But you can be sure it was after sweating my ass off.
Shower daily-just do it. Not saying you must apply any soap or wash your hair. But get under the water-it feels good. The water against your skin reminds you of being alive. I won't get into that though..not at the moment.
There was a point to this blog. And it stems from a conversation I had last night with a friend regarding relationships. Especially long-term relationships.
Why do they fail? Why do they succeed?
Monogamy is an interesting thing. This idea that two people begin seeing eachother and subsequently stop sleeping with other people. A matter of justice? The rules seem to be ingrained in how we enter relationships. Ok so we're banging now..you're not banging other people right? So intrestingly enough people tend to set up preliminary rules to a relationship..before it can even be called a relationship to begin with! If you are both remaining exclusive to one another. And you are seeing eachother on a frequent basis. And you are having regular sex. Then that is the cross-over to becoming "official"?
I've found that people tend to walk a blurry line between seeing a person and actually full-on dating them. And in the end someone always tends to get hurt. Whoa! I'm just part of the dating scene here. So why the crappy feelings of rejection?
I've found that dating is an easier way to meet someone you will be with long-term. I have friends who experience long gaps between romances because they don't put themselves out there. But in a way, I can't blame them.
The road rash from a failed "whatever we are" can be unsettling.
There are, of course, no rules to dating. What it really boils down to is the simple question "Do I like this person enough to date them?" And I think that answer is one of those "If you have to think too much about it-then you don't".
So perhaps we should be more careful as to who we get naked around. Because the physical intimacy that comes with sex seems to always carry baggage. And unconciously we become attached. My theory is that as much as we'd like to say we can control those emotions-we can't. Sex can be a minefield for hurt feelings.
Of course as we grow older sex becomes less of a "huge deal" and more of a "thing that happens between adults" ..At least that is my hopeful perspective. But there is something there..in regards to sex..a certain intimacy and affection that plays into it.
At least that's in my experience. I don't have "shut the fuck up and bend over" kind of sex. I find that mutual pleasure comes with a mutual understanding of said pleasure. Ie-Hey I care if you come just as much as I do!
Sex and dating seem to go hand in hand. But they certainly don't agree with one another. Dating promotes promiscuity, freedom of choice, lack of pressure. Sex promotes exclusiveness, cravings, jealousy, hurt.
I'll take my sex..but hold the dating.
That's all folks.
peace & love
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