Putting Oneself Out There

I always found that our reaction to rejection is so wonderfully illogical. I mean let me put it this way. If some random person were to enter the room right now and immediately begin berating you ( calling you all sorts of bad names along with ugly) would you take it personally? No. The rational portion of your mind would surmise at least one thing:.

This person does not know us. Therefore these accusations do not have any real truth value.

We would immediately come to the conclusion that if someone does not know anything about us personally..then their insults or accusations mean fuck all.

Yet..when approaching a relative stranger for a number or a date we become the most sensitive fucks ever. All of a sudden we are taking things personally. Interesting..

And of course I could sit here and talk nonsense about loving oneself and not “caring what others think” similar to some motivational middle school speech. But hey, we all want to get laid and cuddle sometimes. The single life is two things at the same time. It’s a great period to grow as an individual and to be “free” to move and do what you please. But it’s also not something that we all want to hold onto for life. So, eventually we will make these timid approaches to females/males.

One must be careful not to lay all our cards onto the table when it comes to anyone else. Because here’s a hard-to-choke-down fact about life:

We can’t control how other people feel

Whether we are approaching someone for a first date or experiencing a break-up. There’s only so much we can do to appease another person. It does sting, however, when we are turned down for a date or not called back after the first couple dates. And well, my theory is that we’ve put ourselves out there and haven’t had the feelings come back. It’s a crappy cold feeling and we shy away from it. Hence the reason why so many people simply sit beside each other (both totally wanting to fuck each other) and do nothing about it.

There’s this old ass Michael Jordan quote I remember. It was framed and put up in my elementary school principals office. I was in there more than I was in class. (Don’t ask) but the quote read “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” and well..it’s true. How could you ever have met suzy q or john smith if you hadn’t put yourself out there?

The conclusion is not appealing. But finding ourselves a little hurt is life. Similar to stuffy noses and rainy days..hurt comes in life. And it’s better to just admit to ourselves “gee, that sucked” and understand where the suckiness came from. It doesn’t make you “vulnerable” it makes you a go-getter. Err..that sounded stupid. No, it makes you a normal-fucking-person. That sounds better.

-dev